Quality time or doing time?

OK so at what point does quality time become doing time? How do you know if your smothering your significant other and how do you gauge what is to much or not enough. I mean think about it. On one hand when your in a relationship (especially a new relationship) you want to spend every waking moment with them it’s been so lovingly called the “Cupcake Phase” but what if your over doing it.

Communication is key for both parties. I mean seriously who’d continue to talk to a brick wall (not this chick) but I’m quite sure if the convo is flowing and communication is kept up by both parties the quality time won’t be an issue. What if the relationship has surpassed the “Cupcake Phase” the quality time can become too routine, complacent, or even as extreme as making someone feel trapped so it is always important to continue your original lifestyle outside of your relationship (with a few adjustments in regard to being in a relationship of course.) It will help to keep the I miss my boo thang element in your relationship.

So always evaluate in either “Cupcake Phase” or the “Surpassed Cupcake Phase” has your quality time become doing time?

And always remember!

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” –  Maya Angelou

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Co-parenting 🤔

Now for one I am a daughter of a single parent I now am the mother of a beautiful set of twins. I have seen a lot of different family dynamics over the course of my 32 years on this planet. I’ve seen healthy happy marriages, I’ve seen bitter unhappy broken homes and anywhere in between. Now that I’m a mom I see the inside of parenting so clearly but there’s something in particular that sort of strikes a nerve with me! Where do you draw the line of doing for your child and doing for your ex?

Now I know for some this a tricky and some what of a touchy subject especially from the males perspective. Where do you draw the line? I mean should gifts be exchanged between the parents (Birthdays, Mother’s/Father’s Day etc…)? Also should holidays be shared as if a home isn’t divided? If so what is the protocol if these parents now have significant others? What sort of guidelines or boundaries should be set? What expectations should the parents set for their children? Without causing detrimental harm to their children’s support system.

I would really like to know what you think???

And always remember!

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” –  Maya Angelou

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